The changes that come with a divorce are hard for everyone involved. One challenge for children might be having to move to a new home. Some children have lived in the same home for as long as they can remember and the thought of having to leave it is difficult.
Parents who are facing the possibility of moving need to prepare the children for what’s to come. It might not be easy but moving is a good signal that your new life is starting. Consider these points as you work with your children regarding the move:
Your child’s age matters
Older children, such as teens, might have a more difficult time with the move. They likely have friends and close relationships that they have to leave if you are moving to a new city or even to a new school district in the same city. Having to adjust to a new school and making friends can be difficult for children of all ages.
Remaining positive helps
Your attitude can influence how your children handle the move. Even though you know there will be some difficulties, try to remain positive. Be willing to discuss your child’s concerns. As they let you know what’s bothering them about the situation, point out the good things about what’s going on. Maybe they will get to decorate their new rooms or there might be fun things to explore in the new city. Bringing up things like this can help them to see that the move is for the best.
Adjusting to the new home takes time
Set realistic expectations for you and your children. The adjustment isn’t going to be instant. Work with your children to find out what you can do to help them feel comfortable in the new home. At a minimum, you should ensure they have a space of their own. Even if they don’t have their own room, they should have somewhere to keep their things without others bothering them.
A final note
Before you move, make sure that the move complies with the parenting plan. Some orders might contain clauses that require you to get the court’s or your ex’s permission to move. Pay attention to the geographical limitations for your residence, especially if you have the children in your custody. If you do have to get the court’s approval to move, remember that the court will determine if the move is in the child’s best interests.