If you are trying to decide if a divorce is right for you, then you are in a precarious position. You may want to speak with your attorney, but doing so could tip off your spouse that something is wrong. If you aren’t sure about what you want to do yet, speaking with your attorney is one of the best things you can do. Your attorney can help you decide what you would need to get together to file for divorce and would be able to give you an idea about how your assets would be divided upon divorce.
Before you go to your attorney, you will want to ask yourself a few questions to decide if a divorce is really what you want. To begin with, you need to sit down and decide if your marriage is not worth saving. If there is abuse, adultery or other issues, then you may be correct in moving forward with the divorce. Here are a few other things to consider.
1. Have you done all you can to fix your marriage?
The truth is that fixing your marriage isn’t something you can do alone, but sitting down and talking about problems with your spouse should be a conversation you have together before you make up your mind. You don’t have to bring up divorce, but you should consider discussing any serious issues you have with your spouse and finding out if your spouse is willing to work through them. If not, that may be the answer you need to move forward with your divorce.
2. Consider how this will affect your family
If you have good relationships with your partner’s family, keep in mind that those could change upon divorce. You need to think carefully about how your life could change moving forward and decide if it is something you are ready for. When you end a marriage, people do tend to take sides, so you should be prepared for the emotional distress that can cause.
3. Understand your finances
Of course, to divorce, you need to know your financial situation well. Will you be able to move out? Do you need alimony? Knowing where you stand is a step toward understanding if now is the right time for a divorce.
These are just three of many questions you need to ask yourself. Be certain before you bring up this life-changing option to your spouse.